Is your marriage or relationship with a loved one on the rocks?
I feel for you. My marriage used to be on the rocks every two to three weeks with the the first two men in my life. It really sucked. I was occasionally happy. I went through what my current husband and I call…
“The Psycho Woman & Crazy Man Cycle”
…but he didn’t say it that nicely. First we would go do something fun together and “play nicely with each other”. We would have a blast hanging out, laughing, and telling our stories. We were kind and considerate for a few days, weeks and sometimes we would make it a whole month without arguing. Then something didn’t go as planned and we disagreed, then argued, then yelled and sometimes we got to swearing at each other. I would lose it way more than he would but I didn’t realize it till it was too late with my first husband. I would get snappy, bicker some, try to change him and he would change alright and go out the door. I would chase my husbands (I am on husband 2) like a rabid barking dog running down the road which made them drive even faster and do burn outs. I would nag them on the phone till the cows came home because he surly didn’t want to. Does that sound like a similar situation? Hurts doesn’t it?
* What if you could have a rock solid relationship with your significant other and/or loved ones who are troubling you?
Or at least have a loving, respectful connection with your loved ones. What if I could show you how you could have a rock solid marriage? Sure disagreements are inevitable and some are healthy but what if you could stop arguing and fighting and learn how to disagree by discussing, compromising and agree to disagree so that you can spend more quality fun time with your family and be more productive at work. If you are being more productive at your work, wouldn’t that bring you more money because when your boss sees that you are attentive to your work, since you do have such a peaceful home life, wouldn’t you be more likely for you to be considered for a raise? Hence, more money, more vacations, more toys. It’s a win, win for all, you, your significant other, your family, your boss and your company. When you give love; you get love and more money. They get more love and more money. So what if I could teach you a method that would bring you more peace, more joy and more money in your life?
Oh but it is their fault, not mine!
I would blame the men in my life because they would not do things my way. He drank too much, smoked too much, didn’t treat my kids right, didn’t pick up after himself, didn’t stick up for me when I spoke out of line, especially when it came to family. If he would only…
*What if I could teach you one sentence that would change your life forever?
Your loved ones will surely appreciate your change of heart and so will you. I can help.
Yes, in order to get love, you must give love, even when you are mad; after you calm down of course. Remember you love this person and you want your relationships to work. The more you give, the more you get. Step up be The Better Person and you will love yourself more because you did your best. If you don’t do your best, it doesn’t feel as good, right?
Sound too familiar, well here’s more…..
Then I would give in and apologize because I acted so stupid without resolving the issue and go about my day. Then I would be super kind because I felt so stupid for my ugly behavior. A few weeks would go by and all of a sudden when things didn’t go my way again, I switch back to “Psycho Woman” . It totally sucked to be me. I was not happy, didn’t know how to be happy. Maybe you are not as bad as I was but are you fighting instead of discussing your disagreement.
*What if you could have peace with it being your fault?
Allow me to show you how not to blame anyone but to fix the problem. Do you know how to forgive?
I do! It is so enlightening when you truly forgive someone who hurt you. But first you have to figure out how to do that. Of course it takes time, but what if you could get over it a little quicker and get on with your day in a good way.
*What if I could teach you this life changing phrase?
Are you mad right now?
I used to be mad more than I was happy. Whether it be one of my husbands, one of my three sons, his family, my girlfriends, my children’s teachers. I would create situations inadvertently. It would take me hours, day and sometimes weeks to get over.
*What if I could give you a tool that would help you get over your anger a lot quicker?
Are you grumpy a lot?
I was grumpy, cranky, irritable, fast and bad tempered, mean, touchy, crabby, ornery, inconsiderate, frustrated, angry, and complained a lot. The crazy thing is I didn’t realize I was like that. I thought it was them. I seriously thought there was nothing wrong with my behavior and that is how I was supposed to conduct myself. My family did the same.
*What if I could give you a rock that would teach you how to love yourself and how to love others the way they like to be loved?
Do you cry a lot?
I cried almost daily for many years, especially when I had my period and going through menopause was miserable for me and everyone around me. Back then, I rarely enjoyed life. I even tried to kill myself with pills. I am a shame to admit it but that was part of my growing pains to wisdom. I don’t want you to have to go through what I went through. I want you to have a happy, peaceful, content life so that you can Pay It Forward.
*What if I can bring you joy when you are having a bad day?